Love: The Warrior Woman's Achilles Hill

Expert Author Marieme Faye
Be Yourself! They say.
Everyone else is taken so learn to just be yourself. They say.
You can't live without love, so you give love a chance.
They think you are beautiful, strong, powerful, illuminating with light, emitting pure divinity, ambitious, in possession of a prosperous and abundant mindset as well as a gorgeous spirit.
At first, They Love it, They fall in love with you.
They chase you for weeks, months until you agree to allow them into your most sacred space, your heart.
Then, after the hunt is over and you become "theirs" the moment you say "I love you": they start showing you their true color and metamorphose into "Satan' s most faithful disciple."
Shocked, you don't understand what is happening to them but you mostly do not understand what is happening to you.
You lose yourself into the relationship and lose your identity, worst your Self Confidence, your Sense of Self worth and wonder how You, of all people, fell into such a trap.
You are now in love, he knows it and makes it a game to manipulate you, use you and "make you feel" less than who you are at times.
No more fun and expensive dates,
No more gifts,
No more begging you to give them a chance,
No more attention unless they still want something from you.
At this point, the hunted becomes the hunter and you are already invested and want to make it work, but it doesn't.
You suffer in silence.
You cry your eyes out every day.
You blame yourself for falling into the trap of love and feel like you fell into the deep well of despair.
You just have no strength to get out of it or even cry for help.
The warrior in you is dormant and is not answering the call of battle for freedom, self-respect, true self-love. You are lost into the atmosphere of unanswered questions.
So you try to please him, to "make him" happy, you serve him loyally and become his "pet" per se.
He has won.
He has succeeded.
He molded you into the creature he wanted you to be and the "YOU" that existed before is nowhere to be found. You hold on to the relationship for love, kids, financial reasons, despair, because you have nowhere to go and no one to turn to.
What is the Solution?
Tough one.
Run. Yes RUN!
Gather the last pieces of FREE WILL you have within yourself and Run for Your Life.
Appeal to the divine to find it within you to just Run without looking back; straight into the unknown which is scary but necessary.
Once you are away and feel a bit safe, focus on finding Yourself again.
Once you do, fall all over in love with Yourself, regain your independence, your freedom, your confidence, your beauty and rise up.
Rise up and applaud yourself because you have freed yourself from the grips of "hell".
Rise up and forgive yourself.
Forgive him.
Rise up and give yourself another chance to love like you have never been hurt when the time is right for you.
In the meantime, keep loving yourself, focus on nurturing and treating yourself like the true queen you are.
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